{"id":350,"date":"2020-08-16T19:39:07","date_gmt":"2020-08-16T19:39:07","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.nwhellcats.org\/blog\/?p=350"},"modified":"2020-08-23T08:18:18","modified_gmt":"2020-08-23T08:18:18","slug":"happy-mess-dramaturgy-packet-coming-out-after-30","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.nwhellcats.org\/blog\/2020\/08\/16\/happy-mess-dramaturgy-packet-coming-out-after-30\/","title":{"rendered":"Happy Mess\u2013Dramaturgy Packet\u2013Coming Out After 30"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<div class=\"wp-block-media-text alignwide is-stacked-on-mobile\"><figure class=\"wp-block-media-text__media\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"960\" height=\"720\" src=\"http:\/\/www.nwhellcats.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/Elaina_watertower4wee.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-316\" srcset=\"http:\/\/www.nwhellcats.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/Elaina_watertower4wee.jpg 960w, http:\/\/www.nwhellcats.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/Elaina_watertower4wee-300x225.jpg 300w, http:\/\/www.nwhellcats.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/Elaina_watertower4wee-768x576.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 709px) 85vw, (max-width: 909px) 67vw, (max-width: 1362px) 62vw, 840px\" \/><\/figure><div class=\"wp-block-media-text__content\">\n<p class=\"has-normal-font-size wp-block-paragraph\"><em>Happy Mess<\/em> by Ian Paul Messersmith<br>directed by Sarah Campbell<br>dramaturgy by Ariana Burns<br>packet prepared Summer 2020<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\" style=\"font-size:10px\">(Moscow Idaho\u2019s Rotary Park water tower photo by Elaina Pierson)<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>Happy Mess<\/em> is in development at the University of Idaho Theatre Arts Department through the Fall 2020 semester.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">TOPICS<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\" id=\"block-e077d019-e059-42c3-9bea-80eb8a18e98f\"><li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.nwhellcats.org\/blog\/dramaturg\/happy-mess-dramaturgy-packet-water-tower\/\">Water Tower<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.nwhellcats.org\/blog\/dramaturg\/happy-mess-dramaturgy-packet-lgbt-ceos\/\" data-type=\"post\" data-id=\"360\">LGBT+ CEOS<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.nwhellcats.org\/blog\/dramaturg\/happy-mess-dramaturgy-packet-coming-out-after-30\/\" data-type=\"post\" data-id=\"350\">Coming out after 30<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.nwhellcats.org\/blog\/dramaturg\/happy-mess-dramaturgy-packet-small-town\/\" data-type=\"post\" data-id=\"398\">Small Town<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.nwhellcats.org\/blog\/dramaturg\/happy-mess-dramaturgy-packet-mattering\/\" data-type=\"post\" data-id=\"368\">Mattering<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.nwhellcats.org\/blog\/dramaturg\/happy-mess-dramaturgy-packet-lbgt-aa\/\" data-type=\"post\" data-id=\"391\">LGBT+ &amp; AA<\/a><\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-drop-cap wp-block-paragraph\">One of the important moments in<em> Happy Mess<\/em> is when Bella comes out to her mother when her mother moves back to the family home after being away for several years. Bella is out in other aspects of her life but is almost forty years old when she tells Mama.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">No two coming out stories are the same\u2014a comment often made in the articles about people who came out later in life. Pew Research\u2019s study in 2013 of LGBT+ Americans found that younger adults disclosed their orientation earlier in life that older adults. It anticipated that this was due both to changing social norms and the population itself:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>The survey finds that the attitudes and experiences of younger adults into the LGBT population differ in a variety of ways from those of older adults, perhaps a reflection of the more accepting social milieu in which younger adults have come of age.<\/p><cite>Pew Research<\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Tanya Byrne writes about her coming out when she was in her late 30s. She knew she was different but there was no what she called an \u201cA-ha moment.\u201d She attributed this in part to a lack of role models. She also mentioned that coming out is not a one and done event:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>I don\u2019t know why people say you \u2018come out\u2019 like you do it once then it\u2019s done. I come out pretty much every day. To colleagues, neighbors, friends I haven\u2019t seen for years, to the random bloke at the bus stop who wants my number. Every time I meet someone new, I have to ask myself the same thing: \u2018Can I trust you? Are you going to hurt me?\u2019 and that [sic] hope they don\u2019t.<\/p><cite>Tanya Byrne<\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The Pew Research study found that telling parents about their orientation was an important milestone. 56% of respondents had told their mother. 10% in the study the question was not applicable. 39% had not told their father.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-gallery columns-2 wp-block-gallery-1 is-layout-flex wp-block-gallery-is-layout-flex\"><ul class=\"blocks-gallery-grid\"><li class=\"blocks-gallery-item\"><figure><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"459\" height=\"565\" src=\"http:\/\/www.nwhellcats.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/pewchart1.jpg\" alt=\"\" data-id=\"353\" data-full-url=\"http:\/\/www.nwhellcats.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/pewchart1.jpg\" data-link=\"http:\/\/www.nwhellcats.org\/blog\/?attachment_id=353\" class=\"wp-image-353\" srcset=\"http:\/\/www.nwhellcats.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/pewchart1.jpg 459w, http:\/\/www.nwhellcats.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/pewchart1-244x300.jpg 244w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 459px) 85vw, 459px\" \/><\/figure><\/li><li class=\"blocks-gallery-item\"><figure><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"409\" height=\"387\" src=\"http:\/\/www.nwhellcats.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/pewchart2.jpg\" alt=\"\" data-id=\"354\" data-full-url=\"http:\/\/www.nwhellcats.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/pewchart2.jpg\" data-link=\"http:\/\/www.nwhellcats.org\/blog\/?attachment_id=354\" class=\"wp-image-354\" srcset=\"http:\/\/www.nwhellcats.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/pewchart2.jpg 409w, http:\/\/www.nwhellcats.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/pewchart2-300x284.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 409px) 85vw, 409px\" \/><\/figure><\/li><\/ul><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-small-font-size wp-block-paragraph\">Byrne, Tanya. &#8220;5 Things I learned about Coming Out at 40. Oct 11, 2017.&#8221; <a href=\"https:\/\/medium.com\/s\/5-things-i-learned\/five-things-ive-learned-about-coming-out-at-40-by-tanya-byrne-dc0c85dc6236\">https:\/\/medium.com\/s\/5-things-i-learned\/five-things-ive-learned-about-coming-out-at-40-by-tanya-byrne-dc0c85dc6236<\/a>. Last Accessed: August 16, 2020.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-small-font-size wp-block-paragraph\">Pew Research Center. <em>A Survey of LGBT Americans Attitudes, Experiences and Values in Changing Times<\/em>. 2013. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.pewsocialtrends.org\/2013\/06\/13\/a-survey-of-lgbt-americans\/\">https:\/\/www.pewsocialtrends.org\/2013\/06\/13\/a-survey-of-lgbt-americans\/<\/a>. Last Accessed: August 16, 2020.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Before moving on, I would note that Miller, writing for the <em>New York Times<\/em> had to update her article because of the vagueness of being \u201copenly gay.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>This article had been revised to address the uncertain nature of \u201copenly.\u201d Some readers consider openly to include people who are out in their personal lives but not in the workplace; other readers, and the Human Rights Campaign, count only those who publicly identify themselves as gay.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-small-font-size wp-block-paragraph\">Miller, Claire Cain. \u201cWhere Are the Gay Chief Executives?\u201d <em>New York Times.<\/em> May 16, 2014. <a href=\"https:\/\/nyti.ms\/1gJLwum\">https:\/\/nyti.ms\/1gJLwum<\/a>. Last Accessed: August 16, 2020.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Happy Mess by Ian Paul Messersmithdirected by Sarah Campbelldramaturgy by Ariana Burnspacket prepared Summer 2020 (Moscow Idaho\u2019s Rotary Park water tower photo by Elaina Pierson) Happy Mess is in development at the University of Idaho Theatre Arts Department through the Fall 2020 semester. TOPICS Water Tower LGBT+ CEOS Coming out after 30 Small Town Mattering &hellip; <a href=\"http:\/\/www.nwhellcats.org\/blog\/2020\/08\/16\/happy-mess-dramaturgy-packet-coming-out-after-30\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading<span class=\"screen-reader-text\"> &#8220;Happy Mess\u2013Dramaturgy Packet\u2013Coming Out After 30&#8221;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[6,11],"tags":[10,27,9,38,29,34,13],"class_list":["post-350","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-dramaturg","category-theatre","tag-dlpanotherfinemess","tag-dramaturg","tag-dramaturgy","tag-happy-mess","tag-lovemesomeresearch","tag-ruminating","tag-theatre"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.nwhellcats.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/350","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.nwhellcats.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.nwhellcats.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.nwhellcats.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.nwhellcats.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=350"}],"version-history":[{"count":10,"href":"http:\/\/www.nwhellcats.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/350\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":408,"href":"http:\/\/www.nwhellcats.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/350\/revisions\/408"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.nwhellcats.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=350"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.nwhellcats.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=350"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.nwhellcats.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=350"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}